Silence the voices

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To my friends dealing with Domestic Abuse

I know he loves you. I know that is what he said, I know he claimed he would give the world to you. I know that is what you felt. I know your mother took it too, abuse in another form. I know they said men are cruel, I know you listened when the elders […]

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Depression, the Devil, and Serotonin

I wrote an article a few weeks ago as part of a six part fiction series ‘A Collection of Scars’, one of the monologues revolved around Zainab, a young woman who was unhappy in life, marriage and motherhood. Zainab was suffering from low mood, lack of motivation and low self-esteem; she diagnosed herself as depressed. […]

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Maybe – Poem

  Maybe you’ll go, I’m asking as I pray, Maybe I’ll open the door that will make you stay.

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Pastor Adeboye, Marriage and what makes a Good Wife

Pastor Adeboye, the general overseer of the RCCG, recently spoke to the youths of his church. He made some statements regarding marriage and the internet has been filled with memes and videos mocking him for his statements, while middle-aged people sit silently and observe. Women are arguing that his sermon propagates the oppression of females […]

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Are You Afraid of saying Yes to God?

Do you recall my post last year on saying yes to God? I do. But I had to read it again to find out what I was afraid of. To be honest, a lot of my fears were fears of the flesh, and now that I have hindsight, I realise that saying yes was the […]

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5 Moments when being Single Sucks

I saw this title on Mandy Hale’s Blog and I decided to join in too. I checked google, and the term ‘being single sucks’ yielded 4,570,000 results almost as many as Finding Mr Right.

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A Collection of Scars: Tope – Despondent

I did not see this moment coming, or perhaps I was told it was coming, but I ignored the signs and the warnings. Daniel and I met when I was four years out of university; I was a late bloomer in the love department. I had been running away from marriage. I did not understand […]

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I don’t know how to love him

The first time I heard the words above, I was listening to the song of the same title from the Musical ‘Jesus Christ Superstar‘. Mary Magdalene in the play was referring to her inability to understand why Jesus, a man, required a different kind of love than other men she had previously known. She explained […]

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Vulnerability in Relationships

Recently, I had a conversation wth a friend on the difference between vulnerability and being needy. The point was raised that women who try not to be needy inadvertently create walls that prevent them from being vulnerable in relationships. The other party in this conversation stated that modern women and feminists were so independent, that […]

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