Image Credit; WAK

Image Credit; WAK

Let us talk about love today. In recent times, I have heard people, females mostly claim to have lost the love of their lives, declaring they loved once and will never love again. These people all claim that ‘the one’ came and left and there will not be another ‘one’. However, when you listen to their stories, it is evident that often there is a reason ‘the one’ did not stay, or ‘the one’ was not a good one. There are approximately 7 billion people on the earth, do you really believe that only one of them is the one? If you do, then do you live your life based on serendipity alone? Because that’s the only way to believe in the myth of the one!

There are many wrong ones, and there are many right ones, life teaches us that we make decisions based on our temperament, life situation and whether or not we take wise counsel. Just like friendships, relationships can either be; good, bad or mediocre. We know the friends that drain us, the selfish ones that think of themselves alone, the ones who take and take as though it was their right. We also know the one that have a solitary purpose, the one that we cannot take our problems to, because they will either offer foolish counsel or no counsel at all. The one better left behind as an acquaintance. We know the friends that make us grow, the ones that make us better, push us harder and love us deeper, the ones that run side by side us as we aim for the cross. We know our good friends, in a similar way, it is easy to differentiate between the bad one and the right one.

I recently heard a young female lament about her struggles in finding the perfect one at the perfect time, and I thought to myself; is that at all possible? Her rationale for perfect was following the day of matrimony, perfect for life and eternity. Her definition of perfect was looking at a list for now and a list for the future. However, I ask; when we request perfection in others, do we ever look at the flaws facing us in the mirror. What says that when you marry this perfect man, your imperfections will not rub off on him. After all, you are the common denominator.

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If we take a look at Isaac and Rebecca in  the Bible, their match was ordained by God. Isaac was to bless Jacob who was to become the father of Israel. It was predestined, yet in the midst of Godly perfection, their home was riddled with conflict. The match was made in heaven but needed to be lived on earth, you need to work at anything worthwhile. Isaac and Rebecca may have been made for each other, but based on how their marriage played out, they may have been divorced if they lived in 21st century claiming; ‘he was not the one’. If God sends you the one, would you even know what to do with him? 

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Believing in ‘the one’ is cute. I happen to believe that there is a right one depending on your location and where God has placed you. A right one that will help you walk in your purpose as you help them walk in theirs, the bone of your bone and the flesh of your flesh. Believing in fairy tales does not make them come true, you need to work. Instead of making lists about the right one, why don’t you make a list on being the right one. A list that details your character flaws and strengths, why don’t you try to work on yourself. After all, if you do believe in serendipity, it’s only a matter of time, so why don’t you make the most of that time!

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Until next time, You know Dami loves to chat! Do leave your comments below. Do you believe in the one? If you do, are you the one?