I recently found a card written to me by one of my friends, the note was at least three years old. She wrote simply about the importance of our friendship and how it played a comforting role in her life. It reminded me of the beauty of sisterhood, and the importance of having women supporting each other. Upon reflection on her words, I realised that I was better for having female friends. There is something remarkable about sisterhood. When I say sisterhood, I refer to all the women in your life; mothers, sisters, friends, cousins, mentors. Every woman leaves an indelible mark on the life and heart of other women she encounters. There is something to be shared and valued in the bond of sisterhood. When sisterhood is done right, we can find safety, security and friendship. I remember a woman once saying to me that she was friends with men only as women had the predisposition to be malevolent. I saw the truth in her words, but I also saw a woman who did not have support.
It is true; many women have friendships that can be filled with hatred and end up becoming ‘frenemies’. However, that is not what I am referring to today. I think such relationships need to be cut off with immediate alacrity. A relationship that creates hatred instead of love should be disposed of whether romantic or platonic. After all, St. John said; ‘perfect love casts out fear.’A relationship that creates hatred instead of love should be disposed of whether romantic or platonic Click To Tweet
When I speak of sisterhood, I refer to women who stand behind one another, supporting each other, praying together and rooting for one another. There is a predisposition to envy and wish for success when someone else is thriving. But that does not need to create discord. Seeing others prosper should challenge us not embitter us.
Many women have alienated their sisters in the pursuit of a career or the pursuit of a man. These things are good in isolation, but a woman still needs her friends. She still needs the encouragement of women to tell her that she is doing ok. She still needs women who can pray with her, women who understand the struggles she faces maritally, spiritually and emotionally. She needs women who challenge her to be a better mother, friend, sister and wife.
Perhaps not all friendships last forever. Yes, many friendships may last only a season. But we should remember not to remain completely isolated. Yes, we may run this race alone. Yes, we will give an account for our life to God alone. Yes, moments of solitude are of value as we discussed here. It is always beautiful to have people in your corner, cheering you on. It is heart warming to know that you are not alone. After all Ecclesiastes 4: 9-11 says;
‘Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.’
Do not forget your sisters. Reach out to them today, and remind them that you love them still!
What do you value in sisterhood? Is it love, connection, friendship or knowing you have a shoulder to lean on? How can we encourage women to have healthy relationships?
Do share your thoughts below. You know Dami love to chat.
Until next time, Dami loves sisterhood.
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