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Chivalry is dead? Who actually came up with this saying. It was something I grew up hearing but as I have come closer to adulthood, I’ve realized that that phrase is an opinion not a fact. A friend recently informed me that she had been seeing a young man who opened car doors, restaurant doors and all doors for her. He allowed her to go first in all things and she was confounded. Although, I was pleasantly surprised, I encouraged her to thank him for his kindness and never reject his chivalry. I was of the opinion that this behavior is not required by many women today, hence the surprise when we are faced with such gestures.

A while back I ran into a prominent couple at the airport, I introduced myself to them even though I was rather starstruck, and I noticed something about them that both amazed me and warmed my heart. During the entire check in process and boarding time, I observed the husband carry all the baggage, pull both pieces of hand luggage and immediately place his suit jacket across his lady’s shoulders upon entering the chilly boarding area. His attention to her every need and immediate desire to fulfill the perceived role of a man amazed me, placing a rather cheeky grin on my impressionable face.

When I decided to write this article, I looked up the word ‘Chivalry’ in the urban dictionary I found this direct quote as the top definition; “Something women complain is dead even though it cannot logically exist in an equal society, which is something women wanted. It’s one or the other.” This made me think; is chivalry dead because we as women desire equality? Is it possible to be an independent an enterprising woman and still expect a your significant other to be a gentleman?

Surely men and women are equal human beings yet have different roles to play in society. We do not suggest that men begin to have a monthly period, deliver an infant after 9 months gestation and breastfeed for a minimum of 3 months. That distinctive role is given only to the female species, and unfortunately for men, there is no equivalent for such a demanding yet edifying duty. Could Chivalry be a way of showing respect for the ongoing blessings and burdens of being a woman? Does it have to be symbolic of women being the perceived weaker sex? I always assumed that chivalry was more than that. I believe it’s about truth, honor, courtesy and a quest for justice; it is the embodiment of all a gentleman is supposed to be.

So what do you think? Should men be chivalrous in all their dealings with females? Do you think that this is possible in the 21st century, when we all desire equity and equality? Do you believe that it is a travesty that young men are not brought up like the two gentlemen I’ve described above?

Do share your thoughts below! You know Dami loves to chat!!

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