Naysayer- a person who habitually expresses negative or pessimistic views: Despite a general feeling that things were going well – urban dictionary[/caption]
There are many times in life when we find ourselves stuck between a rock and a hard place. Between pursuing our dreams and standing back in the shadows. Then there are those who come into our lives for the sole purpose of antagonising our dreams. Sometimes they do so out of jealousy. Other times, they do so out of fear. They are afraid that we may fail, that we may regret our decisions, that we are on the wrong path. However we must remember, that we were born alone, our vision was given to us alone, and those that take bold steps often do so alone. So here are five easy steps on how to deal with naysayers when you know what your purpose is.
1. Silence the crowd Do not listen to the false praise and adulation of the crowd. Do not pay attention to what the world is saying. I encourage you to find your quiet and silent place, then write a list. A list of things you want to achieve and how you think you will reach them. Accept your goals and dreams as your own, recognize your purpose.
2. Identify your priorities
It is inevitable that on the way to success, some things will be left behind. You cannot run a marathon in record time if you’re carrying two suitcases on your back. You must identify what is most important to you and make it a priority. Create a vision board so that your goal is set clearly before you, learn how here. This way when the naysayer approaches; your eyes are still fixed on the prize.
3. Get a second opinion
Many times naysayers have a way of twisting reality to suit their views. We begin to believe their fears and accept their pessimism as fact. Do not do this. Instead, seek counsel elsewhere, be careful with this, as if you seek guidance from a different person of similar upbringing the counsel may be the same. So why seek advice? Because sometimes someone else may see something you never envisaged. The generation gap can often present a problem, so ask someone who has the wisdom of the ages but knows how to apply it in this century!
4. Do not engage
I cannot say this enough. Do not engage! Whatever you do, do not start a war of words with someone who wants to infect you with their pessimism, it will only get you down. Instead, accept what they have to say and then shut up. It is likely that their words will upset you initially, however if you are successful in avoiding an argument you will have saved yourself further distress and despair. Remember naysayers have an abundance of doom and gloom, you don’t need that. Remember; “you will never reach your destination if you stop and throw stones at every dog that barks” Winston S. Churchill
5. Follow your path
Bear in mind that vision board you created, and that list you wrote with your hopes and dreams? This is the point where you follow it, focus on the finish line, plan and pursue with excellence in mind. The road may not be smooth, it may not be easy, you may want to give up, however if you want the dream you will chase it regardless of how long it takes.
Remember, naysayers are one of two things; jealous or driven by fear. You do not want to be either, so break those chains and set yourself free! Your life is waiting for you to live it!
Until next time. Dami loves living!
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