Revenge is a dish best served cold is common saying. Most children have grown up hearing adults say this and most grown ups agree with this saying most ardently. I on the other hand have never been one to go searching for an opportunity to payback someone who had wronged me. Unfortunately, I cannot say the same thing for my mind, she does that all the time.
My mind races with different thoughts on a regular basis. Most times, I’m simply making a list of action plans in my head of daily activities and household chores that must be completed. However, when a sneaky mention of the name of someone who hurt me gets into my mind, the rose petals of loveliness fade and seeds of pain are planted.
I find myself imagining all sorts of scenarios in which my revenge could be enacted, ways in which my cause will be vindicated and my pain will be erased. But then I remember the poem A Poison Tree and how planning for revenge just causes more pain to others. And in those moments when I catch myself thinking these things I remember that my pain is the reason my thoughts are so volatile. I remember that I have never been the one to seek revenge, to fight for myself or even confront my enemies.
So whilst ironing this morning when that pain was stirred up in me again I remembered that pain is only as strong as the power you give it. The past is the past and you have to let it go. Many times we rehearse scenarios of past events in the aim to alter the outcome. We envision ourselves foreseeing the disappointment and heartbreak so we can totally avoid the pain. The problem with that is; you cannot change the past. However, you can definitely work on the future, and use your pain to propel yourself into your destiny.
Leave revenge for those who wish to to be further consumed in pain. After-all as Mahatma Ghandi said ‘an eye for an eye will only make the world blind’
Lots of Love
Until next Time xx