Hello, friends! We are back with another episode of virtuous enterprise! I hope you enjoyed the last few instalments, if you missed them, you could read them here. This month, we have an internationally acclaimed hairstylist on the blog. Tola Olayanju has become a household name as the CEO and hair artist behind ‘Charis Hair‘. Many women and men would be familiar with the jaw-dropping styles she creates for brides and models alike, it is no wonder that her master classes are filling up fast from London to Lagos; Johannesburg to Harare. I implore you to read and savour this interview, Tola speaks with wisdom far above her age. She understands the value of Gods grace, the importance of womanhood done Gods way and obviously, she believes in the empowerment of women worldwide. I hope you enjoy her interview! I sure did. (more…)

Hello, friends!! We are back with a new instalment in the virtuous enterprise series. If you missed the last few interviews, feel free to read them here. I hope you took advantage of Tosin’s discount off items at zerefashionhouse. Now, let me tell you a little story of providence that explains how I managed to get Ruth Yimika Awogbade on the line up for the virtuous enterprise series.It is also evidence that only those who receive have asked and that the things you desire can come true if you prepare for all possible eventualities.

So when the series was still an infant lurking somewhere in my dreams, Ruth’s name was on the list. Ruth Yimika Awogbade is the CEO of Magnify magazine, a publication that prides itself on faith, feminism, and fashion. Damiloves lovers will know that I get excited when faith and feminism are combined. Ruth was recently listed as one of the 20 most influential black Christian women in the UK by Keep the Faith Magazine, she is also a board member of the Evangelical Alliance. I was certain that I wanted to interview her! I had read issues of Magnify, and I wanted to meet the beauty and brain behind the clean crisp yet loaded publication, that is the Christian woman’s fashion magazine of the century. How, did it happen you may ask?

In February I attended an event that was hosted by one of my mentors and her husband in London and while sat at a table chatting with several young women, guess who walked in? Yes! God did it! Ruth and her fiancée Ayo walked in and took a seat. Ayo, Ruth’s fiancé, was speaking at the event on being a purpose filled Christian single and I was excited because I had brought my business cards along with me!

I eventually walked up to Ruth full of fear and trepidation; I knew the worst thing she could say was no. But she said yes to my proposal and took my business card, and I left feeling glad, I had fulfilled purpose ! The way a prepared boy scout feels when he successfully lights a fire on a camping trip, with a spare box of matches.

In this month’s interview, Ruth encourages and challenges us to be diligent; she reminds us that dreams are not enough without hard work to back them up. I hope you enjoy Ruth’s interview on Damiloves; I know I certainly did. (more…)

Hello friends, yes, I am posting on a Monday, it is a way to welcome you into the new year. I was recently studying the proverbs 31 woman and verse 16 jumped out to me so loudly.  Christians often focus on the housekeeping and character qualities that makes the proverbs 31 woman great, but we miss out on the fact that she was also a business woman, and an entrepreneur.

Verse 16 of proverbs 31 clearly states that she considered the benefits of going into business and made wise choices. When I read that I realised that she was a woman who was brave and unafraid of her dreams. Reading and reflecting on that verse gave me pause. I thought to myself, what will happen if we women were bold and unafraid? What happens if we boldly face the future without fear and trepidation, it was in that place of reflection that I was inspired to encourage you all, by launching this new series.

So here are the details
1.What is it called? The series is called ‘Virtuous Enterprise’.
2.Who is involved? I will interview Christian business women .
3.What is the aim? The aim is to encourage us all that our dreams as women are valid and God is in favor of our capacity for excellence.
4.When will it be? The last Friday of every month here on damiloves.com

5.What do you need to do? Just tune in, comment, share, and subscribe.

Is there someone you think will be great in the series, let me know in the comment box, or drop me an email @ Damilola@damiloves.com

See you on Friday xx

I recently heard a well educated Nigerian woman discuss her circumcision on TV. She explained that she was circumcised on the seventh day of her birth the same way the male children were. Upon further enquiry, she explained that circumcision was emphatically not the same thing as female genital mutilation. I was not sure about her explanations, and decided to do some research on the subject, here is what I found. (more…)

I recently came across a quote from a Christian woman and author who had this to say about the feminist movement. Dr Kirsten Birkett said; “Feminism is a selfish movement with no sustainable philosophy, a fabricated history, and an incoherent morality. It does not bring freedom and fulfilment for women, and it will not right injustices. Many of us in this world rightly feel anger and sorrow at the terrible lives women all over the world can face; poverty and starvation in some places, violence and abuse almost everywhere. The answer is not to become more selfish. That can only make injustice worse.” (more…)

President Buhari, of Nigeria, recently said his wife belonged to the kitchen, the living room and the ‘other room’ after she criticised his political decisions openly. When this occured, some women were livid, while others supported his claims. Several men came out to say he was correct, while others claimed he was wrong. I was tempted to ask the men in my life, where they felt their wives belonged; the other room, the kitchen, or the boardroom. Apparently, most people have accepted that the ‘other room‘ was a reference to the bedroom stating wise women have mastered the skills of manipulation in there. (more…)

Eight female anchors on ‘Egyptian State Television’ were suspended recently due to their weight. Their bosses blatantly told these reporters that they needed to lose weight, or they would not appear on air. Feminists were livid they cried discrimination, while some said that if they see a face they do not like on TV, they change the channel subconsciously. What do you think; do you believe in their philosophy of ‘lose weight or get lost?’ (more…)

The word ‘bitch’ has been used to refer to women worldwide as a result of their ability to succeed. Women instead of being called ‘boss’ are called ‘bossy’ and rather than being called successful, they are being called ‘bitchy’. Most successful women worldwide have been called a bitch at one point or another in their lifetime, and this cuts across most cultural barriers. After all someone said ‘well behaved girls rarely make history.’

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Hello, ladies, I realise that the topic of today’s feature is a little ‘out there’ however, speaking about this issue is necessary, and I’ll tell you why. I recently had a conversation with a friend who informed me that due to her light periods she often would use one super tampon a day not changing until the morning after. According to her because sanitary items were expensive, periods annoying, and her flow was light this seemed like a reasonable option. However, when I told her about the risk of death (yes I said death; as in going to meet Baba God and Saint Peter) (more…)

I recently found myself having to defend women to a group of men who thought feminism was women whining unnecessarily. I attempted to bring the cause of feminism to the grassroots. I attempted to make them consider the case of the girl child in the developing world. I tried to help them understand that when young girls are uneducated, forced into child marriage and oppressed; feminism was the voice they needed. I was ridiculed as another feminist, ‘anti-men’, ‘a wannabe man’, ‘having penis envy’; and it hit me, I did not care. (more…)

Sharing is how we feel connected. It is how we know that we are not alone in this big scary world. Sharing our stories is our way of testifying, and that is how we overcome adversity. It provides someone else comfort in their storm. I recently read Frances Okoro write about her abortions and the backlash she received from her family as a result. It caused me to ponder on the two-edged sword that comes with sharing and how it affects women in particular. (more…)

If you have not watched the video below of the Ooni of Ife’s current wife chastising feminism and the female desire for equality, where have you been? The Olori spoke meagrely on the subject of equality and why it is an achievement that no woman could attain. Anti-feminists began wig snatching on the Internet, and Nigerian women worldwide began to argue.
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I have always championed women and our right to freedom, liberty and choice. However this past week, I began to consider an aspect of feminism that I had not reflected on before. Men and their rights. Hear me out, the entire concept of human rights stems from men and their choices. Their ability to choose and make a name for themselves is what created the world in which we live. Men were termed the ‘stronger’ sex because 4000 years ago we literarily needed them to go out to fight lions and bears to put a roof over our heads and food on our tables. 4000 years ago it was expected that a man harvests a forest and build a house with his bare hands. It was his responsibility to hunt then and kill a pig and bring that pig home so his wife could cook the bacon he will eat. In that age, the woman needed to stay at home, because the roles were clearly defined and to be fair it sounds like she got a fair deal. However, with the advent of modern science and industrial farming, I do not personally know a man who can farm a forest and build a house. (more…)

Recently, the Youtube sensation Adanna-David posted a photo of herself breastfeeding on Instagram. She wrote a caption chastising people who gave her an evil stare in an attempt to rebuke her actions; as with such public statements, some praised her while others disagreed with her sentiments. I recall sitting at the airport in Calabar (Nigeria) a few years ago as I observed a young mother was sat in the boarding area attempting to feed her baby. She had draped herself in an Ankara sheet as a show of modesty. As she struggled with a baby who did not enjoy the sheet, an elderly woman walked up to her and pulled the sheet off. (more…)